The Land of No Excuses
I am on a mission. I am determined to not just visit, but live in the land of no excuses. I am also completely fired up to do whatever is necessary to support you in living there too. Life is short. And I find myself feeling more and more convicted about having our lives reflect a genuine understanding and respect for this truth.
As a coach, one of my core commitments is to hold a huge vision where we are no longer playing small, no longer holding back from expressing our truth, no longer blocking ourselves from the manifestation of our dreams. To make this vision come alive, we must be willing to not only uncover our limiting beliefs and blocks, but be willing to transform them. No more excuses.
Therefore, this article is a loving challenge to all of us, myself included, to take full responsibility for consciously designing our lives, no matter what, and to allow ourselves to play bigger. It is about getting out of our own way, once and for all. As we explore the territory of our excuses, limiting beliefs and struggles, I request that you be outrageously compassionate AND courageously firm with yourself. Again, the goal is to lovingly release our excuses.
So what might this look like as you move forward? What action or shifts are being called for in the land of no excuses? See below for some tips to play with as you continue your process of personal transformation!
Step into total self-love and acceptance.
As you move through your life, how much are your decisions being influenced by wanting approval from others? Are you living someone else's vision for your life? If so, it is time for you to be grounded and confident in who you are...to embody unwavering trust in your truth. Furthermore, I urge you to extend that same love, respect and freedom to others. Just imagine how different our world would be if we were all living our most fulfilling lives, overflowing with authenticity and passion.
Stop telling yourself the old stories!
Let's be real. I know that I find my stories to be SO OLD AND BORING! How about you? Refuse to give your limiting beliefs and stories any more power. Instead, hold as sacred the creative power of your thoughts and energy. The Law of Attraction speaks to how like attracts like. Given this reality, what do you want to grow more of with your focus? Your language is important. The way you speak about yourself and the energy you bring to the conversation does matter. In fact, it matters a great deal. Be crystal clear about the new, empowering beliefs that you are now committed to living, and spend an extravagant amount of time magnifying, savoring and declaring those new beliefs.
Avoid the trap of comparing yourself to others.
How often are you obsessing about others and analyzing how they show up in life? And how often does this lead to worries about not doing it "right," not being "ready" or not being "good enough?" Please, no more. I want you to know without a shadow of doubt that you are not alone with your fears, doubts and insecurities. We are all on the journey of being human, each and every one of us, no matter how it may look to you from the outside.
Allow your process to be messy.
How might your life be different if you were totally willing to fumble and fall? This is about tapping in the true cost of staying stuck in your comfort zones, continuing to deny yourself and the world of your vision. I want you to declare that this is no longer okay. The world is waiting for your beautiful and unique imprint. You have a contribution to make. So let go and begin taking action. You might just surprise yourself as you open up to the experience of being "perfectly imperfect."
Release attachment to the idea that it has to be hard.
We tend to have our well-prepared lists of why things are the way they are, as well as a detailed description of the intense challenges or drama associated with making it different. Trust me, I know because I can be the queen of making it complicated! Does this way of operating sound familiar to you? Do your habits and patterns convey disbelief that change and growth could be easy? Well, what if it is? What if, bottom line, playing bigger is primarily a matter of simply letting go of the struggle? Maybe all it takes is to absolutely decide that you are going to release what no longer serves and finally get out of your own way. What if? Can you even entertain this idea?