some simple steps for becoming more confident
We are all human and have flaws. Even if your physical appearance or social skills aren't what you wish they were, that doesn't have to stop you from being confident. Here's how to believe in yourself.
Make a list of special talents you have, or things you do that are good—morally or otherwise.
Make a list of special talents you have, or things you do that are good—morally or otherwise. Focusing on your attributes helps distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed. It doesn't have to be a specific skill; it can be an approach or an attitude that you champion through life. Do you always stay calm,cool and collected, even in hurried situations? Are you very patient with people? Do you always see the humorous side of things? Are you always there for yourfriends?
Find your passion.
Find your passion. Whether it's baton twirling, martial arts, classic cars, or basket weaving, you will feel confident pursuing that endeavor by recognizing what you enjoy doing the most. More importantly, you'll be enjoying your progress.
Choose a role model,whether someone close to you, or someone famous.
Choose a role model,whether someone close to you, or someone famous. Think of the qualities that the role model displays, whether physical, emotional, moral, and/or spiritual.Make sure they have done something that is special and related to you. Work towards acquiring their special talents .
Focus on others.
Focus on others. Try not to focus negatively on what others think of you. Instead, focus more on what they think of themselves, and try to help them become happier and more confident.
Accept compliments gracefully. Don't roll your eyes and say, "Yeah, right," or shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond positively ("Thank you" and a smile works well).
Know that you have important things to say and do.
Know that you have important things to say and do. When you feel strongly about something, speak loudlyand clearly and make eye contact with people. Let go of your fear of coming off as annoying or overbearing. People will judge you all the time, and usually they'll misjudge you anyway, so why bother trying to cater to their opinions at all?
Take care of yourself.
Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet and get enough exercise. Don't abuse your body, don't overload it, and don't deny it any of the things it needs. At the same time, don't obsess. Buying all the moisturizers, creams and conditioners will not bring you closer to who you want to be. Those things are only band-aids and make up. Confidence comes from within. Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance. In order to be confident, you must value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.
Stick up for yourself.
Stick up for yourself. If people put you down (and not in a good-natured, joking way), then let them know that their opinion of you is not held by everyone--most of all yourself. This may, at first, be hard to do. But once you stick up for yourself a few times, your confidence builds and you get more adept at it.
Celebrate your individuality.
Celebrate your individuality. If you know you've got something special or different, then embrace it—don't hide it! That's diversity! You may wish that you were taller, or shorter, skinnier, stronger, whatever the case may be. But you need to realize that if you were like everyone else, then you wouldn't be who you are. "What am I?" you ask; the answer's easy: You're a unique individual who is capable of growing and learning.
Improve your posture.
Improve your posture. Having good posture can actually make you feel more confident. Don't slouch or slump your shoulders. Make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are square, and your chest is puffed out slightly (but stay loose, otherwise you'll appear stiff and uptight). Good posture also helps with deep breathing, which helps with feeling calm and relaxed.
Take action. It is surprising how powerful the simple step of taking an action can be. And the action you take need not be something extravagant or grand. It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter or tidying up that corner of the garage that has been out of control for the last several months. It could also be something as interesting as taking a class in yoga, art, interior design, anything that interests you that you haven't done yet. Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence that other things can be done as well.
Be an Optimist: Think about the good things that may happen if you succeed.
Practice: "Practice makes perfect, but nobody is perfect." Well practice improves your skill and makes you mentally ready to handle any situation. Practice makes progress. Remember that. You can't immediately start playing violin and be a master. Practice is the key.
Try to recall good memories: Try to remember when you handled a tough situation and came out triumphantly.
Try to do easy things and win: If you play video-games play a round in easy difficulty. Or just do anything in which you can hope to win easily. This gives you confidence and makes your mind steady.
Drink water: Water is the elixir of life. Just don't drink too much.
Have a good sleep: It makes you brain fully functional and removes lethargy.
Be Aggressive: If you get beaten you can always go to the hospital. I mean to say that if you fail you can try again. There is always tomorrow.
If you are going for something big gang up with your(trustworthy) friends: Yes, I mean Trustworthy.
Clean your mind before the showdown: Think about what you have to do rather than the ifs and elses of what would happen if you win or lose.
Write a list of all the things that you were before your "fresh start" of being confident: For example: "I was shy and couldn't talk to strangers." Then tear the list into pieces and scrunch them up in the bin. That was the old you, now convince yourself to be confident and talkative etc. Once you've told yourself this, you can now pretend it's impossible for you to return to your old ways because they've been ripped up and discarded.
Also write a list of all the things you will benefit from when you are confident: For example: "I will gain more friends." Press the list to your heart and pretend that it's the new you. Hide the list somewhere, and know that until you rip it up this is your new personality which is impossible to be changed. It may sound crazy, but if you really convince yourself and believe then it may just work!
Look in the mirror and think of the positives about the way you look. Overlook the flaws. It might sound vain, but just smiling at yourself in the mirror, helps you to love yourself, thus making you that bit more confident,
Be determined to change: If you're not, you will probably just return to your old, shy ways. You must want to be confident.